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Relationships And The Power Over Pain
     Meeting somebody that you enjoy being around is always a pleasant situation. Many times those meetings grow into relationships that we have a chance to nurture for months and maybe years to come. Out of those relationships sometimes springs a more special, intimate relationship with one individual. We find ourselves drawn to them more than we are to the rest of our friends. They have that “something” that catches your eye and makes your mind start thinking about them in a new light. You start to see them as a continuation of you, an addition or enhancement of your character and personality. They seem to complete some part or parts of you that you feel are incomplete or lacking.  Sometimes people throw out words like “soulmate” and “lifelong love” or even “the one”. Based on that characterization, we begin to let our minds think that we need to be with this person. We have to have them in our life. We begin to long for them. They occupy most of our thoughts and we may even envision a family with them. So we pursue them and the courtship begins. You have the dates and the walks in the park or by the river. Late night tv at her or his place. Dinner with other “couples” at their place, a restaurant or your place. Whatever may be, time moves along and if things are right, the two of you start to feel that you’re compatible. You start to become more intimate and one day you decide to take the relationship to the next level. You introduce coition, copulation, intercourse, sex! You are going to be with somebody for a lifetime. He or she is the one. You’re still excited when you see them. When you hear their voice. The sex is still good. So you decide to make that commitment. For some people that is marriage. For others it’s co-habitation. Whatever the case, you’re living together. Twenty-four hours a day, seven days a week, three hundred sixty-five days a year. It’s very hard not to return to your life’s routine when you are with somebody that much. So things around your life's routine start to seem routine. Even the great sex you were having. Sex Toys as Low as $2.95 Exp. 12/31/09 Sex doesn’t stop being good. No. What happens is sex becomes part of the routine of your life. Yeah, you make the occasional date night or bring home flowers or cook dinner or run a bath or two but the reality is that sex has become part of your life’s routine. It has to become part of your life’s routine or else you wouldn’t be having any sex. What it doesn’t have to become, though, is routine in itself. Too often we allow sex to become routine because it fits so easily into our life’s routine. Take 25% Off Any One Item at Adam and Eve Toys Code:25Offone 12/31/09  We wake up one day and feel that our sex life isn’t what it used to be. Why not? Because it’s become part of our life’s routine? Because we don’t focus on it like we should? Because we dont’ put the effort into it to make it a part of our routine but not let it be routine. It’s too easy to under sell sex when you live with somebody. You have lives that need attending too so you start making and accepting excuses about your sex and the routiness of it all. We actually get caught up trying to justify and validate that our sex lives are now routine. http://www.jdoqocy.com/click-2887763-10643358 Shame on us. Sex is anything but routine. When you look at sex for what it actually is or rather should be, you can see clearly that it is anything but routine. The power that sex has is second to none. Kings and countries have gone to war over good sex. Check the history books. Every religion employs and enjoys sex. The thing to remember is that sex needs to be respected and valued for what and how important and powerful it really is. We casualized sex so much in our society that many people have lost sight of the beauty, grace and power of sex. So, what can be done to return sex to it’s rightful place in longterm relationships? A lot. A whole heckuva lot to be honest. Sex shouldn’t be used as a weapon. Don’t withhold sex to punish or manipulate your partner. That’s not right and that’s not fair. Of all the things that can be done in a relationship, sex is the one thing that requires your partner to be there to do their part in order for it to be completed. You can eat alone. You can watch a movie alone. You can exercise alone. You can read a book alone. You can go for a walk alone. You can’t copulate alone. Self-Service does not qualify as sex as it should be. It may serve to stave off an attack of loneliness but it does not and should not replace coition. Forcing your partner to resort to that as their only means of sex in your relationship is wrong and might just send your partner outside of the relationship. But that’s another blog for another day. So, knowing how important, vital and powerful sex is, it only makes sense to do things to take the routine out of it. You need to add color. Add spice. Add variety. There are all kinds of tools, toys, movies, games, clothes and props to help you do just that. Be willing to explore and add whatever it takes to make your sex the “non routine” thing it was when you were deciding that, yeah, this is my soulmate, my lifetime partner, the one. After all, you’re in this for the long haul and you deserve to have the best that life has to offer. What’s life offer that’s better than sex between two adults who love each other in a committmed relationhip? Here’s to sex, in all it’s glory, power and grace. http://www.allxclubpro.com/2040801 http://www.sextoyfun.com/index.php?a=ryte4u http://www.anrdoezrs.net/4o101cy63y5LOUUTTSPLNMROVRTV LINGERIE They say that necessity is the mother of invention. It's also a great source of motivation and re-invention and self-examination, etc, etc, etc. Suffering with chronic pains falls into the same category as necessity. If you don't believe, try it someday. No, not really. I wouldn't want anybody to have to suffer with chronic pains. Finding ways to tolerate the pain becomes perhaps the greatest motivating force for me and I would almost certainly say for many other chronic pain sufferers. While I've been suffering with my chronic pains, I have done a whole lot of self-examination. I have discovered that I do need people. I can't do everything myself. I also learned that just because I have been disabled by my chronic pains doesn't make me less of a man. Through all of this, I also learned that casually repeating the quote "never say never" has a new meaning when you are faced with choices on the direction of your life after suffering with chronic pains for many years. One of those choices is how to make a living when you can't physically do the things you were trained to do and had come to rely on to earn your living. Even though your body can't be counted on consistently, your mind still works. That transition from doer/thinker to thinker/doer isn't difficult as much as it just a change in how you accomplish what you once did with your brawn. I think, at times, it was the fear of what my mind would come up with that held me back from trying different avenues of making money. Once I got past that I decided that could make money online. I had discovered a multi-modal system that helped me tolerate my chronic pains better and I thought, wow, that would be a good niche for me to create my online business. Now, mind you, I'm not pain free but I've been using a multi-modal system to ease my pain flareups and help me get back on my feet faster. So, I started in the internet marketing, affiliate marketing and E-Commerce field. Now I find myself thinking outside of the box and merging multiple business disciplines and offers into a website and the end result is a multi modal system of tolerating pains better and earning money onlne. I use everything from medicines, to exercise equipment, exercise videos, massage pads, pillows and mats, meditation, massage, music, relationship building and maintenance programs and adult games, videos and clothes to help ease pain flareups and tolerate chronic pains better, faster everyday. So as you visit this site, you will find pages dedicated to all of the various methods I use to tolerate my pains everyday. Using the multi-modal method gives me a rounded defense against the ravages of chronic pains. Now I'm sharing my system with everybody who wants to find ways to tolerate the pain their body is suffering. I'm not a doctor, I'm just a person who has suffered chronic pains long enough. I advise you to check with your doctor before making any changes in your pain treatment system. As I am not a medical professional, the information I share on my sites is not intended to be or replace medical advice. I share it because I like sharing but you should talk with your doctor about anything on my site you are thinking about trying. Remember, your doctor is your partner in this with you and they are trained professionals. I'm just a pain sufferer. Okay? Good, now enjoy reading and best wishes in tolerating your pains better.
 | |  "Conversations On Web" -------------- You want to know how to Ease Your Chronic Pain? *How To Tolerate your Fibromyalgia? *How To Ease Up The Stinging Burning Leg Pains? *How To Tolerate The Stabbing Sciatica Pains? ---------------------------------------------------- ----------------------------------------------------- Fibromyalgia isn’t one of the chronic pains that I deal with but I do know folks who do and finding ways to ease their pains is always on my mind. The chronic pains that I --------------------------------------------------------- With causes ranging from fallen arches and calluses to ingrown nails and broken bones, foot pain comes in many forms. ---------------------------------------------------- Treatment of chronic pain usually involves medicines and therapy. Medicines used for chronic pain include pain relievers, ----------------------------------------------------- The battle to keep yourself focused and motivated shouldn't be fought alone. When you are in pain your mind thinks of one thing only, MAKE THIS PAIN STOP. -------------------------------------------------------- Have you been in a funk, not understanding the reason for your bad moods and lack of energy? Are you isolating yourself from others ----------------------------------------------- Meditation; Refresh Your Ability To OverCome Chronic Pain Flareups ---------------------------------------------------- To achieve living a healthier, happier, less pain-filled lifestyle, I have tried many different products, medicines, tips, tricks and foods. I discovered some products that worked to ease my chronic pain and help
   
    
  Excerpt from "Letters To Us" Finding support groups and other people who can understand what you are experiencing and relate to the impact your pain has on your lifestyle and the interactions with family, spouses, friends, children and co-workers. I have been working on ways to share the ideas and methods I use to tolerate my chronic pains and the process that helps ease my chronic pain flareups. I haven’t found a way to be pain free but I have been fortunate enough to break through some of my flareups and start living a healthier, happier, less pain filled lifestyle daily. After gathering shared experiences and my own experiences, I discovered that the only way to really start to fight back against chronic pains is by using multi-modal processes. That’s just my fancy way of saying that we have to address many different areas and methods to effectively begin to tolerate our chronic pains better. Taking medicine alone doesn’t work. Talking to a psychiatrist alone doesn’t work. More surgery isn’t the answer. No, addressing our life for the valuable and wonderful gift it is can lead to our tolerating our pain better ................(click here for the rest of the letter) |
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